When you're dealing with anger, frustration and overhwhelm you can easily find yourself feeling like a crappy mom. I will help you have hope again.
Hello! My name is Talia.
When you are angry and overwhelmed - you tend to react. You take it out on your husband, your kids, yourself, and you make bad decisions. Then you feel guilty about the way you reacted, so you apologize and promise to never lose your cool again.
The problem is that the anger, frustration and resentment is still there.
And so the cycle continues.
I will help teach you emotional regulation skills that will calm your nervous system, allow you to communicate your needs, make good decisions without guilt, and start intentionally responding instead of reacting to your life.
Nurse and Mom of 4
"I recently was sitting at Costco with my husband and four kids eating dinner. As you can imagine it was slighty chaotic, loud, and messy. Before coaching, moments like these would have filled me with anxiety and stress. Since coaching with Talia I'm able to enjoy the chaos and find the beauty in my children even when things are going differently than I want them too. Coaching help me implement mental health techniques into my real life situations. I am forever grateful for the peace coaching has brought into my life."
Stay at home mom of 2
I felt very guilty and Talia helped me see my worth as a mother or my "performance" as a mother was rooted in Christ and not what I accomplished that day. She feels like a friend, but is more than that, because she is completely emotionally attuned to areas that are holding you back from living a lighthearted, joyful, and anxiety-free life.
"I can't recommend Talia highly enough!! The changes I've experienced internally and the life skills that I have gained through her coaching will serve me and my family for the rest of my life. Every area of my life that felt like a struggle now feels like an invitation to get curious, grow in virtue, and lean into prayer and peace."
When you learn how to "feel your feelings," it helps regulate your nervous system so that you are not constantly in fight-or-flight mode, which affects your decision making and triggers your endocrine system to produce cortisol. Instead, you will use a different part of your brain that is rational rather than reactionary. You can learn how to do this in the first 4 weeks of the emotional regulation course.
A lot of overhwhelm can come from taking on responsibility that actually isn't ours. When you learn the concept of boundaries and that you are only responsible for your own thoughts, feelings and actions - you learn to not take on the responsibility of others. This does not mean you break off relationships with others - but that you learn to build healthy relationships and keep exposure to unhealthy ones to a minimum.
One of the first things I ask my private clients to do (as well as students of the emotional regulation course) is to take social media off their phone. There are several ways we create expectations in our mind - but social media has exponentially become very influential in what our expectations are. Anger comes from unmet expectations. You can learn to create healthy and realistic expectations in week 5 of the emotional regulation course.
True self care does not lead towards selfishness, vanity and blowing a lot of money. It reflects your dignity that you are worth taking care of. It's also a discipline, a daily habit that needs tending. Like everything else in life, there is a cost in time, energy and money; but it needs to be realistic, sustainable, and affordable. Sometimes, getting up an hour before your children when you are nursing or pregnant is not realistic - and that's ok. As a mother you will learn that there are many, many seasons. When you learn to work with them rather than against them, self care becomes much easier!
When you learn the previous 4 steps, the door to grow in virtue opens even wider - and this is what it's all about - growing in holiness through our role in family life as woman, wife, and mother. When your brain and nervous system is calm and regulated most of the time, you can much more easily discern God's will and grow in intimacy with him.
